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The Couples Guide to a Fair Separation or Divorce
   
Mediation Services of Annapolis
 
 
       

 

Family Mediation - Separation & Divorce Mediation
Separation & Divorce|
Elder Mediation | Estate Planning

“Couples have the ability to make good, healthy decisions about the end of their relationship. I can help in sorting out the issues and the solutions.”

Overview

Working with separating and divorcing couples is a specialty of Martin Kranitz. Martin was trained by O.J. Coogler, considered by many to be the father of divorce mediation. Martin has been providing mediation services since 1980 when he and Doug Tilley, LCSW established Mediation Services of Annapolis. Since that time, Martin has helped over 1700 couples through the practical issues related to divorce.

Process

Using a structured mediation model, Martin helps guide the couple through a series of discussions covering parenting, property, support, insurance, future education, and tax issues. Most couples get through the process in 3 – 5, two hour sessions. Martin offers both day and evening appointments.

Getting started

An orientation/introduction session (lasting 1 ½ - 2 hours), allows couples to meet with Martin, ask questions and hear about the process without making commitments to enter mediation. During the orientation session Martin reviews the mediation guidelines, expected behaviors and explains options available to the couple for obtaining a legal contract. The couple is given 2 copies of Martin's book “Getting Apart Together” which is used in mediation and can be helpfuf in Separation / Divorce, even if the couple decides not to pursue mediation.

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Mediation is a task oriented*, focused, needs based** negotiation which recognizes that relationships*** are just as important as cars or bank accounts.

*Task oriented -One of the difficulties faced by most people while trying to negotiate at home is that the topics are always changing. Comments like, “ that reminds me”,” I meant to ask you”, and “ we also need to discuss “ often distract from the topic under discussion. The mediator keeps the parties on task and on topic by refocusing them on the topic under discussion.

**Needs based - When disputants use lawyers, the format used for negotiation is called “Position Based Bargaining”. Position based bargaining often focuses on the past, who is right or wrong, and why one party should get more than the other. The outcome is win/lose because the process is a competition. When disputants use mediators, the format used for negotiation is called “Needs Based Bargaining “. Needs based bargaining acknowledges that all parties involved (parents, children and others) have needs. When these needs are considered, accommodated, and taken care of, the result is often more satisfactory, more complete and more creative. It results in a win-win outcome because the process is collaborative.

***Relationships – in family issues (separation, divorce, health issues, teenagers, elder care, estate probate), the family continues long after the dispute is settled. This is true for people living under the same roof or under different roofs . For people who wish to maintain or re-establish positive relationships within the immediate or extended family, mediation can be a way to discuss and negotiate sensitive issues without escalating hostilities. This is, of course, especially important for children who’s parents are separating or divorcing .

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The question to ask yourself is......

“How do you want your children to remember your divorce?”
  • “Mom and Dad were so angry at each other they didn’t even think about us.”
  •  “All they thought about was the money. They didn’t think about how the schedule would effect us.”
  • “It got so we didn’t want them at any of our activities because all they did was bicker and fight on the sidelines.”

Or

  •  “They were really cool."
  •  “They showed respect for us and each other.”
  • “We didn’t have to choose between them and they didn’t make us feel bad about spending time with the other parent.”
Issues

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PARENTING
 
Sharing Information
Educational Information
Medical Information
Medical Emergencies
Communications
    Parent to Parent
    Parent to Child
Daily Schedule
Trial schedules
Special Days and Holidays
Extended Vacations
Contact with Relatives and Others
Death of a Parent
Transportation
Sick Children
Forgetting Stuff at the Other Parent’s House
Extracurricular Activities
Gifts, Clothing, Allowance
Moving
Changes in Job, Residents or Marital Status
Renegotiation
Discipline and House Rules
Decision-Making
Tie-Breaking
Other Stuff
Graduation, Prom, Wedding
Confirmation, Bar/ Bat Mitzvah
 

PROPERTY
 
Non-Marital Property
Marital Property
List & Value Assets
List & Value Debts
Business Property
Household Property
Valuing Household Property
House & other real property
Titles
Pensions & Retirement Funds
Valuing Pensions & Retirement Funds
Credit Cards
Dividing Pensions & Retirement Funds
 
SUPPORT
 
Child support
Budgets
Sources of Income
Child Support Guidelines
Cost of Living Adjustment

Spousal Support
Budgets, Adults, Children
Reducing Expenses
Sources of Income
Cost of Living Adjustment
How Changed
  
 

INSURANCE
 
Life Insurance
Cash Value, Face Value
Support Safety Net
How long
Health Insurance
Who is Covered
How Long
Uninsured Expenses?
Auto insurance
Disability insurance
Beneficiary status
 
COLLEGE (post HS)
 
For whom
How much
Who pays
What is covered
What protections
 
TAXES
 
Filing
Separate
Joint
Refunds/liabilities
Exemptions
Alimony
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